Resilience…can be learned but it can’t be taught.
Paroadoxically, if you teach someone ‘the rules’ for being resilient, and they attempt to follow them, they cannot become resilient.
Resilient people are not rule bound. Instead, they deal with each situation with a flexible approach that allows them to choose the most resourceful way to be or behave in that situation.
They respond to the world based on the outcomes they want, rather than on whatever rules they were taught by parents, teachers, friends, the media, and the general culture.
~ Bill Harris from Thresholds of the Mind